Monday, 24 October 2016

No contact with a drug addict - By Prison Widow

Heroin addicts? They are a royal pain in the arse and before anyone jumps down my throat telling me that it's not their fault etc etc; try reading emails from youngsters who have been affected by their parents piss poor choices! There are young kids out here that are discovering their overdosed parents bodies and people feel sorry for junkies? I know what I am talking about too because I was codependent for ten years plus. I thought I was doing my Mother Theresa bit by trying to save him from the ugly world of smack. Unfortunately it took years before I smelt the coffee. I even volunteered at a local drugs and alcohol organisation and my head was constantly bruised from banging my head against a brick wall everyday. Heroin is a ruthless drug to kick but hear me out; some addicts I speak to tell me that they actually 'enjoy' the drama and there's always drama in the junkie community. Someone has either been done over (battered) or has had their front door kicked in. In fact there are better storylines in the drug community than there is in Eastenders. 
The other in fact, I was speaking with an heroin addict and he said he was fed up of using the gear. He'd just come out of HMP Forest Bank for committing a drugs related offence - and he was catching the bus to go 'grafting.' I asked him if he received any help inside re: his addiction and he said, 'yes it had been offered.' Now it's not the prison's fault, what exactly can drug workers do if a person has absolutely no intention of cleaning themselves up? It isn't down to the prison or drug workers - it is down to the addict. 
My main concern is for these kids! Kids who are abandoned and confused because they don't get why their Mum or Dad has buggered off to a drugs den for weeks, even months on end. We get emails everyday here from teenagers and it is heart-breaking. If your own flesh and blood isn't enough to kick the habit then it's a lost cause. 
The maintaining family ties thing that is often spoke about on the blog is tripe especially if the person you are visiting is an addict and is still an addict whilst serving their time. If they are released from prison an addict then what the hell are families supposed to do? Enable them all over again and wipe their backsides? Personally; and something they do in the USA; which I agree with is many individuals go no contact with their addicted loved ones. 
Heroin addiction - you did not cause it, you cannot control it and you cannot cure it. The three C's - that is the bottom line. 

A Drugs Roller-coaster Ride - From a Mum

My son is a drug addict. He is an heroin addict and he is 29 years old.
He has always lived with me and has been sent to prison for the first time. He has never stuck to his treatment programmes and I have enabled him all along by giving him money for drugs because I didn't want him to steal from anyone although he stole from me plenty of times.
He is now ringing me all the time from prison asking me for money which I think is for drugs because how much money do people need in prison? My stress levels are through the roof and he is mithering me to death all the time for cash. I have had enough I really have. Please someone tell me what to do.

Prison Widow Comment: No one can tell you what to do but as long as you keep feeding his habit he will continue to badger you for money. He couldn't care less about how you feel because he is a drug addict and drug addicts only think about their next fix. 

Wednesday, 19 October 2016

The Damage Has Already Been Done - From Del

My ex partner is in prison and we have an 8 year old daughter together.
I kicked him out of our home last year because I found out he had relapsed and started using heroin again. 
Quite frankly I have no intentions of maintaining family ties because the damage is done.
Organisations (unless individuals have experienced substance misuse issues) have absolutely no idea what they are talking about when they are waffling on about families reducing re-offending. Try living with someone battling an heroin addiction because heroin comes before any partner, mother, father and child. Considering that drug related crimes fill our prisons, I am surprised and equally disgusted that organisations are prompting families to visit and maintain ties. A word of advice, read up on class A drugs and the impact they have on families. Families need to cut all contact with anyone in active addiction. 

Man dies and two injured after stabbing at Pentonville Prison

A man has died and two others have been injured after a stabbing at Pentonville Prison in north London.Emergency services were called to the prison at 3.30pm on Tuesday, where they found three male prisoners suffering from stab wounds.One of the prisoners, a man aged in his 20s, was pronounced dead at the scene at 4.25pm.

Wednesday, 12 October 2016


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Monday, 10 October 2016

Prison? Don't Make Me Laugh - From An Ex Offender

Dear Prison Widow. 
I would rather my name be kept anonymous please.
My prison days are firmly behind me but I have offended prolifically in the past.
The reason I committed crime was because I was a smack head. People don't like that particular word being used but I was a smack head. I robbed off my partner, my Mother, and even my children, so, I was a smack head. Let us not dress it up, I wasn't an heroin addict because heroin addicts don't sound that bad when referring to one. No, I was a down and out useless smack head. 
It was 2010 when a doctor told me I was going on a permanent holiday to a place called heaven. I was injecting in to veins that weren't even there, so you can only imagine. I was a mess and then some! 
I have been 6 years clean and every day is a battle. Some days I crave smack more than others but I get through it and think about how it was. 
Prison is a place that categorically sets people up to fail. Those who say prison is what you make it are delusional. Prison is like a fucking criminal dating gaff. You usually meet your next grafting partner in there and the drugs? Oh yes you can get drugs; perhaps not as much as you can score on the out; but they're in there for the take if you can afford it.
I read quite a lot of articles stating that petty thieves should not be sent to jail.
Perhaps not but drug addicts shouldn't be sent there either! Obviously junkies can commit some horrendous crimes; but does the system honestly think that sending a smack head to jail works? Ha ha ha! Let's see a documentary on re-offending and an inside gander at prisoners running their drug dealing from inside! Let the general public have a proper look because the people's whose houses I burgled wouldn't have been happy seeing me sat in cell having a toot of smack with my pad mate! It's a joke! I did not remotely show a flicker of remorse because smack doesn't allow remorse. 
Break free from heroin? Go on then; try it because recovery is a damn site harder than being a smack head! 
Thank you Prison Widow for providing a bloody good platform for people like myself to say it exactly has it is. God bless you. 

Thursday, 6 October 2016

Is this the life I want? - From Anon

Hello. I know your site isn't a community forum but I am struggling right now. My partner of 9 years has been in prison three times during our relationship and is now on remand for his 4th. I can't do this anymore and I am tired. 
Every time he has come out of prison he has found jobs with agencies and then screws it all up usually because he has started using drugs again and cannot seem to stay away from his undesirable acquaintances. 
We have a lovely home and he throws it all back in my face and goes off the rails. 
I love him but I am struggling now and have to decide whether or not if this is the life I really want. The crazy thing about this is that I know the answer but always give him chances after chances. 
Has there been any success stories and if there has where are they? 

Maghaberry: Man who blinded himself in prison speaks out

A man who blinded himself while an inmate at a high-security jail has spoken about how his life has changed. Sean Lynch said he misses seeing his family smile and seeing their happiness. Mr Lynch, who suffers from mental health issues, inflicted "extreme and shocking" harm to himself over a period of three days at Maghaberry prison. He used his fingers and thumbs to damage his eyes, and claimed to have used a piece of broken glass to injure his groin.

Wednesday, 5 October 2016

Prisoner resettlement scheme raises concerns

A flagship government policy to support and supervise inmates leaving jail has been severely criticised by inspectors. The chief inspectors of probation and prisons for England and Wales said the "Through the Gate" scheme for offenders serving prison terms of less than 12 months was failing to find them jobs. In some cases the public was being put at risk, their joint report said. Ministers said a review of the reforms set up by Chris Grayling when he was justice secretary was taking place. The 2014 overhaul aimed to help provide short-sentence prisoners with a mentor, a place to stay and training or a job. All prisoners sentenced to terms of a year or less are now subject to 12 months of supervision on release. High-risk offenders come under the supervision of the National Probation Service, with the remaining work assigned to 21 newly-created Community Rehabilitation Companies (CRCs). But of 86 offenders whose cases were examined in detail by inspectors, the report said only a minority had found accommodation through the scheme, just one had been assigned a mentor, and none had secured employment. "Public protection work around short sentence prisoners is weak, and this is a systemic problem," they said. 'Vital reforms' Inspectors said re-offending rates among the former prisoners were "concerning" and the risk of harm they posed was not always recognised, meaning victims - particularly in cases of domestic abuse - were not always protected. In one case, a registered sex offender disappeared after being released without anywhere to live. While the picture was more positive for women leaving prison, the report said many probation officers held "an almost fatalistic acceptance of the likelihood of failure". The inspectors recommended ministers should review the contractual requirements to "better incentivise CRCs to develop their approach to the successful resettlement of prisoners". HM Chief Inspector of Probation Dame Glenys Stacey said: "There is still the potential for change that government and others wish to see. "But turning prisoners' lives around is difficult, and success in individual cases is not guaranteed, even when everything possible is done, particular for those with mental illness or addictions." Justice Minister Sam Gyimah said: "We are already carrying out a comprehensive review of our probation reforms to improve outcomes for offenders and communities." He added: "Public protection is our top priority and we will not hesitate to take the necessary action to make sure our vital reforms are being delivered to reduce re-offending, cut crime and prevent future victims."

Prisoners families aren't all in the same boat - From Monica

Hi, I'm so sorry about the kids on here being affected by their parents heroin use. It is a nasty substance and no the Government aren't doing enough.
I was involved with a heroin user and the healthiest thing I did was to walk away. The manipulation was making me ill and my own health and well-being went downhill. 
I did the prison visits and it made no difference whatsoever. He admitted to using in prison so it wasted my time and made a mockery out of the whole criminal justice system. What is the point? We pay our taxes to house drug addicts in prison and what for? So they can use drugs in prison? 
I was once involved with the whole prisoners families campaign thing and remember someone saying that we are all in the same boat. Sorry but no we are not. When I visited prison, a woman was caught distributing drugs to her partner. What sort of people do that? I don't sit on the same boat as those people because I was a victim of heroin manipulation for years and it made me ill so no thank you, I am not in the same boat as anyone stupid enough to supply HMP. Sending love to all those affected by drug use. It is a road I will not be travelling on ever again. 

I found my heroin addict Dad's body - From Anonymous

My Dad died of an heroin overdose and me and my Mum found his body with the needle near his arm. 
My Mum has never used drugs but tried to help Dad many many times but he could not stop using heroin. He was offered a lot of help and support from drug agencies within our community but did not take them up on their offer. Obviously he did not want to stop using drugs and the end result was predictable. My childhood wasn't a bad one because my Mum was fab and always put others before herself. My Dad treated her like a dogs body but she never gave up on him.
My Dad wasn't violent and we did have some good times but I suppose they weren't real good times because he was under the influence. He used heroin in the end just to feel normal so he wasn't walking around high as a kite. 
Whenever he and Mum had a disagreement he would disappear sometimes for weeks on end and Mum never knew where he was. I remember one day walking to school with friends and I saw him coming out of a druggie house looking a mess. He didn't see me and I never told Mum because he was with a woman who looked as bad as he did. 
It was horrible seeing Dad declining and in a sad way now he is at peace.
As a young girl who has lived through this experience, I think that the Government need to do more. They are not doing enough and drug crimes need to pose tougher sentences.
The prison's need to clamp down too because offenders on drugs seem to be going around in circles. 

Prison cell murder accused 'took synthetic high Spice'

A prisoner accused of murdering his cellmate with a flat screen TV was suspected to have taken a synthetic high, a court has heard. Jordan Palmer admits killing Terrence Ojuederie, 42, in their cell at HMP Peterborough but denies it was murder. The court heard Mr Palmer, 26, may have taken the synthetic cannabis drug Spice before the attack and his defence said it may have been taken involuntarily. He was swaying when his cellmate was found on the floor, the trial heard.Prison officer Mohammed Abubaker told Peterborough Crown Court Mr Palmer had called him to his cell in the early hours of 9 December 2015, saying he felt sick.He said Mr Ojuederie, who was from Watford, was awake on the bottom bunk and he "seemed fine".

Stop pushing your tripe on us! - From Leona

My partner (now ex partner) was in and out of prison for petty theft as a result of drug addiction. 
We went through hell and back to the point that his last prison sentence was my last too!
I am in complete agreement with others that maintaining family ties in prison is not that simple and I wish charities and those campaigning on behalf of prisoners families would explain how visiting someone addicted to drugs reduces re-offending? My ex like thousands of other people go in to prison as an addict and leave an addict. How do families help to reduce re-offending when their loved one is a drug addict? People really need to stop pushing their tripe on to families of prisoners because the only person who is able to reduce re-offending is the person who is abusing drugs! Run as fast as you can away from someone who is a drug addict. My life and my children finally have peace and prison visits are a thing of the past. I didn't cause it, I can't control it and cannot cure it! 

Sunday, 2 October 2016

They don't care about us - by Sam

Written By Sam, age 16.

My Dad, the heroin addict, has no interest in anyone but himself. 
Mum kicked him out 4 years ago. 
Since then I have seen him in the street but I make a quick divert. I'm not interested and I don't want any contact with him. 
I want to become a speaker in schools about kids who have been let down by heroin addict parents. Losing a Mum or a Dad to drugs is hurtful. It hurts a lot because drugs are so senseless. They don't care about us - their kids. 

Friday, 30 September 2016

Prisoners and families set up from the word go - from Kerry

I left my daughters dad when he relapsed for the third time on heroin. 
I actually do not agree with maintaining family ties with a drug addict. That is my opinion because my ex used in prison anyway so no matter how you slice it, paint it or dress it up; the system is setting both the prisoners and their families up from the word go. There are drugs in prison and you cannot compete with heroin. If you think you can change an heroin addict and cure them; you are deluded. 
Our daughter is the victim in all this. She is 8 years of age and she doted on her dad. He is a waste of breath and I know I have done the right thing turning my back on him. 
No offence; but I sometimes think that those campaigning on behalf of prisoners families think some of us are thick. Try standing by a junkie back and forth visiting prisons and try dealing with the hassle of of relapse when they get released from prison - but there's no relapse guys; because drug addicts in prison never came of the smack in the first place! 
When they first go in, yes, but they skulk around on the wings skiving and conniving who's got what. They make me sick to be quite truthful with you because they could not give a toss about their families; especially their children. Junkies are bad news. 

Monday, 26 September 2016

Children affected by drugs - from David

Prison Widow talks a lot of sense! 
If you have lived around someone who uses drugs; you can spot other drug addicts a mile off! 
The Government aren't being honest about the drug issue in this country. I'm not a drug addict but my partner started using crack a few years ago and went to prison for drug offences. This poor choice of hers had a disastrous emotional impact on our young daughter who goes to school and gets called crack-head girl. The bullying got so bad she nearly took her own life. She had a great mum who became a sad crack addict and if drug addicts even knew the half of what they put their families through they would never live with themselves which is exactly why they use more drugs to numb both the emotional and physical pain. We on the other hand have to feel the pain every day because we don't do drugs! Our daughter visited her Mum in prison and stayed in touch maintaining these so called family ties but it didn't reduce re-offending because as soon as her Mum got out of prison she went straight back on the crack pipe! My daughter does not see her Mum anymore. She deserves better than a crack addict and needn't be around someone who uses drugs whether it is her Mum or not. 

Sunday, 25 September 2016

Prisoners families are set up to fail - From Evie

Dear Prison Widow Global. Hi there and hello to your blog readers.
If I may I would like to make a comment about your recent post regarding prison visits, drugs and families.
I understand exactly where you are coming from but for me; the real maintaining family ties starts when the person is released from prison! The reason why my partner was sent away to prison was because he had a drug problem and that led to him doing something stupid. 
I visited him and took our daughter and sometimes, not every time, I knew he had been taking something because when you have lived with someone who has a drug problem, you just know. From my personal experience and I am grateful to the prison for organising family visits, the real hard work starts on release from prison. If a person still has a drugs problem when they are released from prison; how have I contributed to reducing re-offending by visiting him in prison when he is coming home STILL a drug addict? Prisoners families should be focusing on family resettlement AFTER release because trust me; prison visiting is the EASIEST part of this journey! If drugs are still swimming their way around the prisons; everyone, families and prisoners are simply just being set up to fail right from the onset! Fantastic blog by the way and I am a regular reader! 

It's all about the money - from ex prisoner Danny

Prison Widow.. I get you and I agree with you. I am an ex prisoner and while the prisons are making efforts regarding families and family day visits etc.. the root of the problem is still there.
I have seen young children colouring in pictures on visits with their dads and I knew for a fact that their dads were not of sound mind and that they had used drugs before seeing their families on visits. You know as well as I do they will never drug test prisoners before a visit. They should because like you say.. it makes a mockery out of the whole system when drug abuse is why they are in there in the first place but it is all about money Prison Widow.
They will not legalise heroin.. but they have legalised a potion called Narcan that reverses an opiate overdose.. so basically if you go over smacked up and someone is lucky enough to give you a shot of Narcan.. you can dance merrily and smack yourself up all day long. It's a money making racket and prisons are businesses... it's a business like everything else in this world today. Good post though.. From Danny 

It's a prison brain wash tactic - By Prison Widow Global

The Government agree that prison visiting reduces re-offending. Now I won't blame the charities or orgs for promoting this ridiculous concoction because the Government pump flowery info in to them- but let us not put flowers on it.
Drug testing before a prison visit is a deterrent but if this was a scheme introduced when I visited my ex, I'd have wasted a ton of money travelling because his eyes were near on always pinned when I saw him on a visit. Terrible isn't it? Which is why the prison service need to get a grip. 
Many children - and I mean many children, are affected by substance misuse. You've read it here on my blog - a child is bullied at school because other kids are calling his dad a smack-head and so forth. 
Let me give you a true account of what prisoners children go through shall I:

1) Their parent or both parents are addicted to drugs.
2) One or both parents are convicted of a drug related crime.
3) They are sent to prison! 
4) They continue to use drugs in prison! 
5) The Government urge prisoners families to maintain ties. 
6) A child visits Mum or Dad in prison who has just had a toot of heroin. 
7) Is this a real case scenario? 
8) You can bet your bottom dollar it is! 

Why should any child visit a parent in prison who is still abusing drugs? Why? 
In society, children who are bought up around addiction have a rough deal and society, let's have it right, tut and blow and social services are never away from the families doorstep - but here's the funny thing - if their drug addicted parent is banged up in the British system and is still using illegal substances inside - let's push the children and families to maintain 'family' ties? Pardon my French but it is the biggest load of bollocks and anyone who honestly believes that maintaining family ties reduces re-offending works, email me with proven statistics and not doctored ones please. ;-)

Drug test before a prison visit - From Ian

From Ian in Kent. 

Drug testing before a prison visit is a good idea in my eyes. It's alright maintaining family ties but why should children sit on visits with a parent who is still under the influence of drugs? I'm an ex-con, I have seen it, done it, and worn the shirt! 

Thursday, 22 September 2016

Prison UK: An Insider's View: HMP Lincoln: the Sound of Silence

Prison UK: An Insider's View: HMP Lincoln: the Sound of Silence: Something happened at HMP Lincoln on Thursday 15 September, but it seems clear that the Ministry of Justice (MOJ) doesn’t want anyone to kno...

How to Stop Blaming Yourself for Your Loved One's Addiction

It’s difficult to watch our loved ones spiral into their addiction. Sometimes, it can become so painful that we start to question if we’re responsible for what has happened to them. However, friends and family members of addicts can stop placing the blame on themselves by utilizing something called "The 3 C's Rule." The three C’s stand for “I didn’t Cause it,” “I can’t Cure it,” and “I can’t Control it." To help you get rid of guilt and guard your mental health, here’s an in-depth explanation of the three C’s. 1. “I didn’t Cause it.” Generally, this is an important mantra when it comes to healthy relationships. The rule of three C’s operates from the belief that everyone is responsible for their own actions and behaviors, including the addict and those who love them. When talking to someone who is in the throes of addiction, they may resort to blaming statements such as, “you drove me to use,” “you made me do this,” or “because of you, now I can’t stop.” These kinds of hurtful statements are often used as a manipulation tactic to guilt the loved one into handing them more money or giving them one more chance. In short, they want to be enabled. Often, these statements also indicate that the addict is not ready to identify themselves as the true source of the problem and is instead looking for a scapegoat. Don’t fall victim to these statements. It can be easy to think that when someone treats us poorly, there must be a justified reason for it. However, “I didn’t cause it” forces us to recognize that we are not responsible for another person’s behavior, only our own. 2. “I can’t Cure it.” As we desperately scramble for any sort of solution to our loved one’s disease, it is important to remember that there is no one-trick fix for all cases of addiction or mental illness. Different people respond differently to various types of treatment and require different lengths of time to get well. Additionally, this mantra reminds us that there is no hard and fast cure for addiction. The truth is, there will never be a day where an addict wakes up and will no longer be an alcoholic, and that will be the individual’s life long journey; hopefully in recovery. While there are resources available to help improve their lives, the temptation will always be there and holding out for an end-all be-all cure will only result in disappointment and failed expectations. 3. “I can’t Control it.” “I can’t cure it” reminds us that we alone cannot change anyone until they themselves are ready to change. Those that suffer from addiction or mental illness are often resistant to change and avoid treatment out of fear. As much as loved ones are tempted to force those suffering into treatment, rehabilitation programs find that treatment is more successful when those suffering are ready and willing to contribute to their healing. In this way, this mantra relieves the loved ones of their perceived burden of having to “fix them.” Often times it is the addict that becomes the focus of recovery, but the lives of family members also go through a traumatic change. Remember that there are support group that exist for your emotional recovery as well. After all, it is important to keep your emotional and mental well-being just as much of a priority as the addict’s in recovery.

                                    SOBER RECOVERY 

Drug test prisoners before a visit - from Heidi

Excellent top post by Prison Widow! 
When a drug addict goes to rehab, they do not see their families for months! I did not, in fact was not allowed to see my man for 14 weeks. Yes I was allowed phone calls but I did not see or visit him and that is exactly how it should be. 
When he went to prison, he was using drugs whilst he was in there and when I found this out, there was no way on earth I intended to maintain these so called family ties by wiping his butt and mollycoddling him. I went through all that previously and I put his prison needs before mine and my children's. I think for some families visiting is productive but sorry, a repeat offender who is an addict and remains an addict in prison I think families should stay away until that person grows up and intends to change. I once took my daughter to see her dad in prison and his eyes were pinned up meaning he'd had a toot of whatever before our visit. My daughter does not need to be around a father who takes drugs, be it out here or banged up in prison. Good on you girl for saying it as it is! In fact, prisoners should be drug tested before a visit and if they test positive, the prison service should cancel their visit! Drugs should not be available in prison, simple as. It's a farce! From Heidi. 

Wednesday, 21 September 2016

Rehab not Prison - From Anonymous

Please refer to me as Anonymous. 
My 23 year old son died from an heroin overdose last year. He started using the drug when he was 17. Needless to say for those 2 years, it was a living hell.
Every time I walk to the shops, I see young people and people of all ages stood around scoring drugs. Having been through this terrible experience with my son, addicts are easy to spot, especially heroin addicts.
I loathe this drug with a passion and I feel that the Government and the Police aren't doing enough to combat the epidemic. Drug dealers, be it high to low level, should face tougher sentences and those sentenced for drug related crimes should be sentenced to a proper closed rehab facility. Prison does not work for drug addicts. It is a pointless exercise. Without a doubt any crime committed should be dealt with by the courts but as others have pointed out on your blog, why sentence a drug addict to prison when prisoners are selling drugs inside? It is completely pointless. Prison absolutely does not nor cannot rehabilitate a drug addict. The revolving door issue will continue and the doors will not stop rotating. 
My son served a short prison sentence for theft, a spate of thefts he committed to feed his heroin addiction. He absolutely would never have stolen before he became addicted to drugs. In fact even if he found a pound coin on the floor, he'd have handed it in! He stole purely because he needed heroin. Heroin alters the chemicals in your brain. Long story short, your brain will crave this drug forever therefore addicts more or less will re-offend. It stands to reason and you can bet your bottom dollar that addicts make up a very large number in the prison estate. I am confident that drug addicts and dealers will keep the prison service ticking over nicely. 
Burying your child is one of the worst things a parent can go through. I am still extremely bitter that a drug took him away. He wasn't a bad lad. He thrived at school and achieved high grades. He was well mannered and popular - until he made that one stupid choice to try heroin. Bit by bit and little by little, his once fresh appearance turned in to that of a pale grey one. He self-neglected and looked dirty. I used to prompt him to take a shower and he refused saying there was nothing wrong with how he looked. He was always in denial. His whole personality changed and I didn't know him anymore. Heroin is a like an entity that suffocates the soul and the kind loving child you once knew is no more.
I shudder when I see an addict in the street because one day their loved ones will probably have to go through what I went through and I really wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Anonymous 

The beast of all drugs - from an addict

I rarely cry but did when I read the post about the young kid who is bullied because his dad is a drug addict. 
I am an heroin addict. I work full time to fund my habit and I have been to prison twice in my life. I am 45 years old.
I have a son who is now 20 and the last time we had contact was when he was 17. 
He grew up around junkies so who can blame him for mapping out a straight decent life. You're probably thinking why I still take drugs. Well I have been in 3 rehabs and have relapsed 5 times. The longest I have stayed off the gear is 4 months and even then I substituted heroin with cannabis and alcohol. 
It hits home when you read things about kids being affected by parents who take drugs. 
I'm an idiot, a complete idiot who got sucked in but believe me that just coming off heroin and stopping taking it is hard work. Heroin is the beast of all drugs. Don't go down that road - please. From an addict. 

Maintaining Family Ties? Ha! - From Vonnie

Correct Prison Widow spot on!!!
I've wasted about 7 years prison visiting and it is (BS) that families of prisoners reduce re-offending!!! The only person to reduce re-offending is the bloody person who is prolifically committing crime!
I have stopped listening to the clap-trap these do-gooders are coming out with.
Why should I live on false hope my partner (now ex) is going to change his ways when it's down to him (not me) to do that. Put it this way, he goes to jail because he knows for a fact (muggins here) will visit and pander to his needs! I am with Prison Widow all the way and bloody well done girl for saying it as it is! 

Monday, 19 September 2016

Man sentenced to months in jail is still behind bars 10 years later under sentence that no longer exists

A man sentenced to 17 months in prison for threatening to kill a former partner during a heated row is still behind bars more than 10 years later. Jason Thorne, 43, of Cardiff, is still in Parc Prison at Bridgend because he was jailed under a sentencing regime called IPP – Imprisonment for Public Protection. It is no longer used because UK Government Ministers came to the conclusion it was unjust. However, although IPP has been abolished for new prisoners, it is still in place for those who were given IPP sentences at the time of their conviction. She said Thorne had recently been in an open prison leading up to his release but had been returned to a closed prison. Rossadded: “He accepts that he should not have made the threat to kill, but it was one of those things said in the heat of the moment when he was very upset.”Thorne’s solicitor Bill Cordingley, of Cardiff solicitors Morgan Criminal Law, said: “We have a number of prisoners still in jail on IPP sentences, and Jason’s case is the worst in terms of the length of time he has remained in jail.“IPP sentences were introduced in 2005 for people who were considered to be a potential danger to the public.

Sunday, 18 September 2016

Forest Bank prison staff 'failed to pass on information' about inmate who died from asthma attack

Salford’s Forest Bank has been criticised after a young inmate died in another prison. Ashley Gill, 25, died from an asthma attack in his cell at HMP Liverpool in Walton after being moved from Forest Bank, at Agecroft. An inquest heard that healthcare staff at Forest Bank failed to transfer information relating to Ashley’s asthma and prescribed medication when he went to Walton. Ashley suffered from chronic brittle asthma, which he had since he was a child. Ashley did not receive health screening after arriving at HMP Liverpool and was not assigned a chronic disease manager due to staff shortages. Fifteen days after his transfer Ashley formally complained about not receiving his medication. He never received his full medication while at Walton. An inquest jury found that neglect contributed to his death. This included failure by Forest Bank to provide initial information regarding his care plan and medication.

Comment: Forest Bank shame on you! Condolences to the young man's family.

Addicted to the addict - from Heather

Hi. Before my man was sent to jail I had 3 years of sheer hell because he was an addict. I loved him but I was an enabler and enabler's they say are addicted to the addict!! I agree with Prison Widow that some family members have been traumatized way before their loved one was sent to jail and for me it was a relief when my man was sent to jail because his addiction made me very ill. 
I was also petrified when his release date neared because I dreaded him going back on drugs but he never had come off the drugs because he was at it in prison. 
My man died of an overdose cocktail last year and I am still devastated. I went to see him in his coffin and I shouted at him, ''how dare you leave me and your son for a £10.00 bag of drugs!! The Government do not give a sh*t and the so called war on drugs is a farce!! I so hate drugs!! Thank you all for talking about this subject because it is important. 

What does maintaining family ties mean? By Prison Widow Global

It frustrates me and I feel angry when I read all the posts about families struggling with addiction. 
We read all these leaflets and articles on prisoners families and advice on "your first time visiting prison" and where to seek support when a loved one is sent to prison; but; for many families, they're used to it. They are veteran's and no one can support them if their loved one is a drug addict- that's unless their loved one is hell-bent on coming off the drugs. Many, many drug addicts whilst serving a prison sentence will tell their loved ones that they are finished with drugs and that this is their last prison sentence. It's bull-shit. For 1, prisoners can get their hands on drugs in prison. For 2, prison is not a rehab and for 3, be it heroin your loved one is addicted to - detoxing and staying off the gear altogether is a battle not many win. Some do, don't get me wrong, but many take the needle and the spoon to their graves. 
For me and in my humble opinion; there is not enough support for prisoners families, and families in general, who have loved ones addicted to smack. 
There isn't enough support for children who do not understand why their parent is in prison and what led their parent to commit a drug related crime. The bloody country is flooded with drugs so why brush the topic under the carpet and tell your child that Mummy or Daddy is 'working away?' You use drugs; the consequences are that you will at some point land your sorry backside in prison. What is wrong telling your kids about the dangers of drugs? Every estate and street in the UK has a dealer or junkie living on it and as for the middle class - well you're not out of the woods either because there's many a parasite earning a pretty penny from drug trafficking. You don't see it because they aren't addicts; they get the addicts to sell it for them - they're called low-level street dealers and you cannot miss them. 
Maintaining ties, i.e,prison visiting, reduces re-offending? It doesn't, simple as!
I supported my partner and religiously visited him in prison, sent postal orders, bought him clothes and trainers, sent him stamps, you name it! I absolutely maintained family ties and I was enabling him also because he bought drugs in prison, traded in clothes, and God knows what else for a toot of heroin in his in cell. People, Government, charities and Orgs, you need to get a grip here and look in to what you are pushing on families. What does maintaining family ties actually mean? It does not end on page 25 - 'and they all lived happily ever after.' How does, maintaining family ties in prison work when families have constantly been banging their heads against a brick wall BEFORE their loved ones were sent to prison? Families of drug addicts just don't go to bed one night and wake up in the morning with their son or daughter in prison. They have gone through the mill and then some for months before the sweat box delivered them to HMP. 

Alison Henderson 

Saturday, 17 September 2016

Sober Recovery - From Bernie

Dear Prison Widow UK... I just wanted to let you know that I found Sober Recovery on your blog site and it is the best support forum around for families who's loved ones are addicted to drugs! They have a stand alone forum and I have learned so so much! It is ace and thank you. Hugs Bernie 

Your Dad's a smackhead! - from Mumof2

My son doesn't get bullied at school because his Dad's in prison; he gets taunted because his Dad is a heroin addict. The other kids shout at him; 'hey your Dad's a dirty smackhead'! My son's Dad has been in prison and no bullying whatsoever took place at all. I'm not being funny or anything but a lot of kids parents in my community and the kids a school do not bat an eyelid at the word prison and sadly it is a common thing. The only time a kid will get bullied with the prison thing is if it involves a sex offence; other than that; no; prison is a matter of fact subject. 
I have split with my son's Dad obviously because of his heroin addiction but he still lives in my community hence why the kids are taunting my boy. His Dad looks an absolute tramp and my son is embarrassed to high heaven. 
If you read your local newspapers; you will see endless Coroner's Court Cases on people overdosing on this evil disgusting drug. It is honestly like living among zombies and the Government are doing sweet FA about the problem! My son's Dad being in prison is a doddle compared to him being out high as a kite smacked up!